Showing posts with label Marriage. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Marriage. Show all posts

Friday, 7 April 2017

Am Getting Fed up With my Husband Dirty Attitude: What Should I do?

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Good morning admin, honestly I am getting fed up with my husbands attitude. 

Whenever I ask him why the
house is like a trash, he would not say a word. He
thinks and act like a fool.

Yes that is it, we live in different state and I work in another state, reason I can not stay with the children is because, my work takes me to places ,he said I should not bother that, he can stay with the children and do his business as well, he sells provisions.

Also Read: My Husband Hates Making Love to Me: What Should I Do?

Admin do you know that I
always quarrel him when I travel to go and see them, because, the house I left in order will be looking like a Dustbin when I get home. His brothers send him goods from abroad, where we live in is my brother in-laws boys quarters.

Everywhere scattered, he and the children sleep under clothes that is supposed to be arranged in the wardrobe.

My kitchen is nothing to write home about. My bedroom, everywhere smelling. He washes their clothes but he will not even care put them in the wardrobe.

Once I get two weeks leave, I
will go home and work till I am exhausted. Honestly I do not feel happy seeing my house in such a mess when I get home, why he can not keep the home neat, I do not understand.

We can not afford a house help for now. We are trying to build up first. I have three kids, he is 44years. What should I do?
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Saturday, 1 April 2017

My Wife Does not Appreciate all am Doing for Her: Please Advice me

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My Wife Does not Appreciate all am Doing for Her

I got married to this lady whom I have not dated.

I reside abroad, so in 2013; I visited home with the sole aim of getting married. So i met this lady who was introduced to me by a close relative, and we got started. I travelled back and invited her to come and stay for some months which she did, although she complained that she would not come again because of the harsh weather of the country, which I reasoned with her.

I do visit home frequently and communication was so important to us. At the
beginning, I requested that she changed her mobile number to avoid distractions and also so that her former boy friends would not get access to her again. I said that because I noticed in one occasion, one of her boy's friend called her and wanted her to come and when I tried to ask her, she denied it and that it was her colleague and later I checked the callers
identity and confirmed my doubt.

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Heart Desires

She declined changing her mobile number, saying that it was used in opening and account with the bank and was also used in processing her school documents.I promised her that I would take care of her which I have been doing from day one till now. I usually send her things to sale and also give her money for feeding, pay the house rent,her school
fees and other expenses. But my worries now is, she does not appreciate all that am doing.

I have always told her to manage whatever I sent to her but she would not.

Also Read: 9 Simple Tasks that Makes Marriages Work

She would spend both the money I sent to her and the proceeds from her sales, which is too bad.I have always told her to manage things with me But she does not want to hear such. We have a child now and as it is, am feed up with her. I rented a shop for her and stocked it with clothes for her to sale because she was complaining that she needed to have her own shop instead of working for private companies; and I reasoned with her. I told her to manage the shop well and pleaded with her to assist me and that when the children start coming, we would not look for anybody to train them for us but we have to give them the best. Am building a house which is near completion and this lady had never for once asked about the work. I have done a lot to keep the marriage and she is not reciprocating.

Always nagging,and always rubbing shoulders with
me because she sees me as the quiet type.

Please i need your advice.
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Thursday, 30 March 2017

9 Simple Tasks that Makes Marriages Work

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9 Simple Tasks that Makes Marriages Work

1. Separate emotionally from the family you grew up in; not to the point of estrangement, but enoyour identity is separate from that of your parents and siblings.

2. Build togetherness based on a shared intimacy and identity, while at the same time set boundaries to protect each partner's autonomy.

3. Establish a rich and pleasurable s*xual relationship and protect it from the intrusions of the workplace and family obligations.

4. For couples with children, embrace the daunting roles of parenthood and absorb the impact of a baby's entrance into the marriage.

5. Learn to continue the work of protecting the privacy of you and your spouse as a couple.

6. Confront and master the inevitable crises of life.

7. Maintain the strength of the marital bond in the face of adversity. The marriage should be a safe haven in which partners are able to express their differences, anger and conflict.

8. Use humor and laughter to keep things in perspective and to avoid boredom  and isolation.

Nurture and comfort each other, satisfying each partner's needs for dependency and offering continuing encouragement and support.

9. Keep alive the early romantic, idealized images of falling in love, while facing the sober realities of the changes brought by time.
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